Making Friends In Your 20s

Hi guys!

This isn’t something I talk about much, but I over think a lot. I’m sure we all do, but honestly theres always that little part in my brain that that wonders what people might be thinking of me. Or what would happen if i’d have taken a different path in life? Would it lead me to be now married with a baby yet? Would the change mean I’d have my own house, or would my carreer be different? Would I even be blogging at all? All of these thoughts go through my mind from time to time, but one thing I really think about a lot is making friends in my 20s.

It’s tough, to say the least. Don’t get me wrong, I do have some friends and i’m super grateful for them as they’re all amazing – and I hope to keep them in my life forever. However, sometimes I wish I had more friends that were local, as life can get a little lonely sometimes.

One thing I have learnt is that it may be nice to go to more events and activities to make friends – it’s also important not to loose track of who you really are in the process. For example, I thought I would try classes at the gym to make friends however in all honesty – I dont enjoy them so prefer to continue working out alone. The same thing can be applied with drinking and nights out, as although I like a drink it’s a rare occasion, not a weekly thing.

Therefore, it’s just better to do what you feel most comfortable with and not push too hard, as it will give off a lack of genuiness – making it harder to make friends. Obviously dont ignore people, just try and get a balance so you can still enjoy what youre doing, without anything coming acrossed as forced.

Another thing I have tried is Bumble (not sponsored). I guess I was drawn to bumble because a lot of my friends are scattered across the UK and not particularly close, so I wanted friends close by. Although this can be challenging and still continues to be, it can be so worth it if you find the right person. I find starting conversations and opening up to new people quite hard in some situations, but love that bumble offers a range of starter questions in order to help get conversation going if you’re stuck. I’ve spoken to some wonderful people on there and have made a few friends, it’s just a case of remembering to get the right balance, so you’re still talking to all of your current friends as well as the new people you meet.

This next point is similar but you could also start reaching out to people on apps such as twitter and insta. For example, if someone is asking for recommendations on a topic you’re knowledgeable about, then send a friendly reply. Or if someone says something funny and you have a witty comeback to make it funnier, then try it. 95% of the time people will respond well, and if you continue to do this then over time it can help to begin a friendship. The worst that can happen is that they ignore your tweet, and in that case, it may just mean you’re not a great match and that it’s for the best. Either way, you’ll never know until you try.

Finally, don’t forget that this can be a long process, and its important to embrace being alone sometimes too. There will sometimes be days where your friends can’t meet up with you, so you’ll need to become okay with being in your own company. Althoiugh that can be hard at first, it can be a really great opportunity to not only learn more about yourself, but also put more time into things like hobbies or acts of self care. So put the kettle on and switch on netflix, because you deserve to feel happy and content. You are enough.

That’s all guys, I hope you liked these tips. How do you find making friends, and do you have any advice regarding this?

Take care

~ Emma x